Sunday, 22 December 2013

Cultish Behaviour (Additional)

In response to a comment on my Cultish Behaviour post, a friend of mine posted:

"Flawed and poisonous" as well as "every effort is being made to destroy healthy cultures" confuses you? Try living with the TW's. Wonderful, warm, loving, helpful people . . . until you cross the "we are special" line.

The [Plymouth Brethren] started as a bunch of people who realized that God does not recognize sects/churches/denominations. So they accepted everyone, and refused to take a name or be anything other than what scripture called them: Christians.

Then came the 'idiot' moment: "Hey, if we're the only ones who are meeting like this, we must be Special." Then they began the horrible process of examining how each other were meeting, and kicking out anyone who was not 'special' enough. They kicked people out for not being un-sectarian enough.

Suddenly those who had refused all sectarian influence became the tightest sect of all. Irony. Typical Satanism.

So... "flawed and poisonous"? Yeah. "Confusing and hard to understand?" Here's a test for you: do something wonderful and tell your church about it. If it helps them advance their name, you'll get accolades. If it is simply wonderful on its own, you will be sidelined.

A society that operates on control is not a society. There are roles for those within a society, and there are roles for the society itself. Control is not one for the latter.

Moral (for personal, or collective use): If you're totally special and unique, then no one knows anything about you but you, and no one can help. There's no sense talking to anyone or listening to anyone about you and your stuff, or about their life either. Not if you're special and unique, "the best/worst" person or group with the worst, special problems.  You can then always bear that burden of being unique, and simply not consider any wisdom anyone has.
   When our church had its divisions, it never considered reading a book or talking to anyone outside the Brethren movement (not special).  Not even people who'd once been in (special) and were now out.  Because of a division.  Nope.  This was a special case.  No sense talking to anyone about it.  It had certainly never happened before, right?  A Brethren division?
   Same thing with people for whom Brethren lifestyle isn't feeding them.  Has that ever happened before?  Only to people who aren't special.  No sense talking to them, though, if you're specialler.  Chaos might ensue.
   If, by contrast, there is a great deal of universality, or points of connection between us all, then keeping us all divided and not talking is a fantastic strategy to bring us all down and keep us that way.

  "Together we stand, divided we fall"1 and all that. If we want strength and health, we need each other.  We need to connect far more than we need to control everything to "keep it together."  We need to let people in behind what Roger Waters of Pink Floyd envisioned as a huge wall we have built, with parental and societal help, out of all the pain, disappointment, hurt, lost hope and alienation.  If connection is important, we cannot afford to be special.  We have to seek the universal, and find common ground. Somewhere.  With someone.

Hey You 1
Pink Floyd
Hey you! out there in the cold
Getting lonely, getting old, 

Can you feel me?
Hey you! Standing in the aisles
With itchy feet and fading smiles, 

Can you feel me?
Hey you! don't help them to bury the light
Don't give in without a fight.

  But it was only a fantasy
  The wall was too high as you can see
  No matter how he tried he could not break free
  And the worms ate into his brain.

Hey you! out there on the road
Always doing what you're told, 

Can you help me?
Hey you! out there beyond the wall
Breaking bottles in the hall, 

Can you help me?
Hey you! don't tell me there's no hope at all
Together we stand, divided we fall. 

Outside the Wall
Pink Floyd
All alone, or in twos
The ones who really love you
Walk up and down outside the wall
Some hand in hand
Some gathering together in bands
The bleeding hearts and the artists
Make their stand
And when they've given you their all
Some stagger and fall after all it's not easy
banging your heart against some mad bugger's wall

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